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[semilethal]

Firstly and most importantly:

Can a person marry someone without knowing if they are attracted to them
Hypothetically

1/2

[steepwithdead]

[....

oh no. he's done it. he's found the topic Caduceus is the LEAST qualified to help anyone with: attraction.]

[steepwithdead]

[But okay he does know a few things.]

Anyone can marry anyone, for many reasons. Such marriages have always existed. Arranged, those of convenience or political pursuit. If you're not obligated to produce an heir of some kind, attraction isn't at all require in any relationship.

[semilethal]

Hm those options all sound very
Dry

And not fun to do

[semilethal]

Actually scratch that
An arranged marriage of political pursuit sounds very fun
Especially if we throw some complicated tax fraud in there

[steepwithdead]

[So much for hypothetical. Is he dating someone??]

Are you concerned about being with someone long-term when you carry no attraction to them?

[semilethal]

Oh no no no

Look alright I'll confess this isn't hypothetical but my twin brother apparently got fake-married but for real and it's HUMILIATING to be so far behind

I'm dating a guy but I never liked guys before and I still don't know if I find him attractive so I'm wondering if marrying him would be bad

Producing an heir is not a concern

[steepwithdead]

[beloved Wildmother grant him strength.]

If it's a matter of competition, I'll tell you this: unless your partner is on board for it, that is a terrible reason to get married.

[semilethal]

Well OBVIOUSLY he'd know

I can't exactly get married to someone without them knowing

[it has not occurred to kiddo that deceit is an option here]

[steepwithdead]

I don't mean the marriage itself, I mean your motivations.

[semilethal]

Oh

Of course. I'm not a particularly adept liar, and anyway he and I made a pact to be honest and clear with each other about our wants and needs. Plus I would clearly need his help to make it work

Would anyone actually try to pull that off without taking their soon-to-be?? Why on earth [This summer child. -2 deception]

[steepwithdead]

[honestly it's kind of precious. less supervillain-y than one might otherwise expect.]

Like I said, people get married for many different reasons. For some, the reason they share and the reason they feel or think can be very different.

It's good that you're honest with your partner, especially if you don't lie well. That raises your chance for a long and successful marriage by a lot. (If you do decide to go that route, of course.)

[semilethal]

Yes yes, I am VERY good at dating and being dated

Moving on to my second question

It's about
eugh
magic

[steepwithdead]

[ hm. living dangerously, topic-wise. but honestly a HUGE relief, he's great with magic talk. less so with romance. ]

Alright, go on.